Some people are that mature. Not most, but some. A friend of mine got married to her husband of soon to be 12 years 2 weeks before high school graduation.
I wasn’t mature enough for marriage at the time and knew it. I still wonder if I’m mature enough to be engaged now that I’m damnear 30
My partner shockwaver was 18 when we got married, I was 22. We’re still together 7+ years later, and going strong :) People constantly say we don’t SEEM married because we’re so happy (why should marriage be unhappy people, you’re doing it wrong).
But we lived though the venom of people saying we were too young, that he was making a mistake. I had an aunt lecture me on the phone for the better part of an hour about how she got married when she was young, and it was the wrong choice, and it ended in divorce - and how the exact same would happen to me, so I should listen to her and not do it. My father flat out said that I was controlling him and forcing him into the relationship (with only having met him once or twice - we met online). Both of their comments stayed with me for a long time and left very deep scars.
Not for everyone, I agree. But let people make their own ‘mistakes’ - and decide if they are mistakes or not.
I was 18 when D and got married. We dated for a month and got married four months later. It’s been nearly 13 years and we’re not only still together, we’re awesome and really happy.
When I met him I’d been through a series of shitty relationships. I was really really sick one day and he came up and gave me a big stack of Madman comics. In one of the pages Jo, Frank’s gf, says that Frank means everything to her and i realized, that’s what I wanted too. I dumped my asshat of a boyfriend and married someone who was willing to battle sick germs to give me a stack of comics to read in bed.
I won’t say it’s been an easy road, no marriage is, but we were willing to fight and compromise and be honest with each other. He’s my best friend. I wasn’t in love with love, i was in love with D and he was in love with me and that makes the difference.
Lol whoever made that must’ve been a bitter fuck, huh?
I got married 2 months ago, 2 weeks before my 23rd birthday, and for the 7 months we were engaged, I got put through the “you’re too young”, “you don’t know what you want”, “you don’t really know what makes you happy”, “you don’t know what happiness is”, “you just graduated, you’re throwing your life away” ringer, etc etc ad nauseum. And then there was the completely stupid, self-contradictory messages I got from some people, like how I’d only truly be happy and fulfilled as a woman if I were married and popping out kids (but not ever sleep around because that’d make me a dirty whore), while the message after the engagement was that I needed to be completely independent of everyone, shop around and date a bunch of guys, and not settle down until after I’d spent my 20’s in a 9 to 5, play the real estate market, and thrown money at a 401(k) and life insurance plan. And then there was the person that said she’d be fighting me tooth and nail and hating my fiance no matter who he was because he was taking me away from her.
Clearly, there are just some people that are uncomfortable with you living your own life and being happy no matter what that entails. You’ll always be doing it wrong to somebody. Know what I say? FUCK EM
Though having an escape plan for a little while isn’t a terrible idea.
And then there was the person that said she’d be fighting me tooth and nail and hating my fiance no matter who he was because he was taking me away from her.
I had a couple friends do that too, mostly guys who’d had a torch for me in High School. The girls i’ve become friends with again via facebook but we don’t really do much. Maybe dinner every few years when we’re both home for christmas… but the guys don’t really talk to me at all. It hurts because they were some of my best friends. One guy even said that he couldn’t forgive me for getting married. Like there was a line and D cut in. I’m not a carnival ride, guys.
sometimes a girl puts you in the friend zone because she knows that it would never work out between the two of you and you’re way to valuable and awesome as a person to lose to a bad break up.
(Source: hashwednesdays)
