fluidfyre: punkhawke: Some people are that mature. Not most, but some. A friend of mine got married to her husband of soon to be 12 years 2 weeks before high school graduation. I wasn’t mature enough for marriage at the time and knew it. I still wonder if I’m mature enough to be engaged now that I’m damnear 30 My partner shockwaver was 18 when we got married, I was 22. We’re still together 7+ years later, and going strong :) People constantly say we don’t SEEM married because we’re so happy (why should marriage be unhappy people, you’re doing it wrong).  But we lived though the venom of people saying we were too young, that he was making a mistake. I had an aunt lecture me on the phone for the better part of an hour about how she got married when she was young, and it was the wrong choice, and it ended in divorce - and how the exact same would happen to me, so I should listen to her and not do it. My father flat out said that I was controlling him and forcing him into the relationship (with only having met him once or twice - we met online). Both of their comments stayed with me for a long time and left very deep scars. Not for everyone, I agree. But let people make their own ‘mistakes’ - and decide if they are mistakes or not.  I was 18 when D and got married.  We dated for a month and got married four months later.  It’s been nearly 13 years and we’re not only still together, we’re awesome and really happy. When I met him I’d been through a series of shitty relationships.  I was really really sick one day and he came up and gave me a big stack of Madman comics. In one of the pages Jo, Frank’s gf, says that Frank means everything to her and i realized, that’s what I wanted too.  I dumped my asshat of a boyfriend and married someone who was willing to battle sick germs to give me a stack of comics to read in bed. I won’t say it’s been an easy road, no marriage is, but we were willing to fight and compromise and be honest with each other. He’s my best friend.  I wasn’t in love with love, i was in love with D and he was in love with me and that makes the difference.

fluidfyre:

punkhawke:

Some people are that mature. Not most, but some. A friend of mine got married to her husband of soon to be 12 years 2 weeks before high school graduation.

I wasn’t mature enough for marriage at the time and knew it. I still wonder if I’m mature enough to be engaged now that I’m damnear 30

My partner shockwaver was 18 when we got married, I was 22. We’re still together 7+ years later, and going strong :) People constantly say we don’t SEEM married because we’re so happy (why should marriage be unhappy people, you’re doing it wrong). 

But we lived though the venom of people saying we were too young, that he was making a mistake. I had an aunt lecture me on the phone for the better part of an hour about how she got married when she was young, and it was the wrong choice, and it ended in divorce - and how the exact same would happen to me, so I should listen to her and not do it. My father flat out said that I was controlling him and forcing him into the relationship (with only having met him once or twice - we met online). Both of their comments stayed with me for a long time and left very deep scars.

Not for everyone, I agree. But let people make their own ‘mistakes’ - and decide if they are mistakes or not. 

I was 18 when D and got married.  We dated for a month and got married four months later.  It’s been nearly 13 years and we’re not only still together, we’re awesome and really happy.

When I met him I’d been through a series of shitty relationships.  I was really really sick one day and he came up and gave me a big stack of Madman comics. In one of the pages Jo, Frank’s gf, says that Frank means everything to her and i realized, that’s what I wanted too.  I dumped my asshat of a boyfriend and married someone who was willing to battle sick germs to give me a stack of comics to read in bed.

I won’t say it’s been an easy road, no marriage is, but we were willing to fight and compromise and be honest with each other. He’s my best friend.  I wasn’t in love with love, i was in love with D and he was in love with me and that makes the difference.

(Source: hashwednesdays)